We are all wiener's....

Fate.   I am a big believer in fate.  That things happen...and happen for a reason, whether good or bad. 

We have all been confronted with those life defining moments that can change your life, for better or for worse.  And for most people, more than once in a lifetime.  The choices we make ultimately turn our lives from one track to another, sometimes subtly, sometimes earth shatteringly.  Whether it's a change in career, relationship, parenthood or a physical change, the impact can either lift us up...or bring us down...sometimes softly....sometimes far too hard.  But we all are ultimately in charge of our lives, and how they impact on the world.  We can do something and make changes, or we can do nothing (which weirdly is still something) and things stay the same. 

But, as a believer in fate...I have to ask "Why do bad things happen to good people, and why do good things happen to bad people?" It's a tough question. Why should good people, innocent people, who have done nothing wrong...have to suffer?  And the only answer I have is that from that suffering, there is always some positive that comes from it.  Whether it is public awareness, a legacy, trust fund, change to legislation or rules, increased funding or recognition of local needs, or purely that families and communities come together...they are all positives.  It is extremely sad and confronting that some people, especially children, seemingly have to suffer, so that it makes some good somewhere.  But....isn't that better than having nothing been achieved?  That a good life is seemingly...wasted...for nothing?

And what about good things happening to bad people???  Well, I am a very patient person, and I truly believe that if you are a "bad" person...that karma will get you in the end.  And I can guarantee that the "good fortune" that happens to bad people is far outweighed by the honesty, truth and purity that is the basis of everything good that comes from tragedy.  Even on the smallest scale....if you have done wrong by someone....and have not felt some guilt or tried to make amends...then expect something special....just for you. And when it happens, think back to how much easier it would have been, if you had owned up and tried to make good the bad you did.

It is very easy to become engrossed in our own little world...in our own little "good and bad" and why not?  The prospect of a new job, new house, new relationship is going to have a huge impact on our lives....but....upfront and truthfully.....it is barely a ripple on our community, our suburb, our city, our country.....the world.  Take a step back and look at the big picture.  It may mean the world to us...but it doesn't give us the right to treat people in a way that is demeaning or degrading.  Think of the impact you have on other people, and the way you react to them.   A ripple very easily becomes a wave.

The biggest ocean, starts with the smallest drop...and we are...the smallest drop. Each and every one of us.

If we live our lives to the fullest...become all we are destined to be....follow our dreams...our passions...our callings.... and be the "good" instead of the "bad"...then we are all wiener's...sorry winners! :)